“I think that if I ever have kids, and they are upset, I wont tell them that people are starving in China or anything like that because it wouldn’t change the fact that they were upset. And even if somebody else has it much worse, that doesn’t really change the fact that you have what you have.”—(via perksofanopenmind)
Okay, so please read this because it would mean alot to me if you took the time and thought about it, please.
In 2007 my father was killed by a drunk driver, since then my mother and have I struggled to make do. We were doing well for a while but were forced to move when our old landlord sold our apartment building. Specifically over the last few months my mother and I have been in an extremely difficult financial situation. She switched jobs, took a significant pay decrease, and started being garnished for unpaid debts. That means that the companies she owns money to are allowed to take more than 50% of each of her paychecks. We can barely afford to pay rent, let alone our gas, water, and electric bills.
We went 4 weeks without water and heat, in the middle of winter, and had to go to our friends every time we needed a shower, and had to carry up, to our second floor apartment, buckets of water from out neighbor’s garden hose to flush our toilet. We ended up having to have a church charity help pay off out water and gas bill so we could have heat again. During that time we relied on a single $15 space heater to keep us and our cats warm.
My mother and I have also had to rely on charity food pantries and friends to help us have enough to eat. Our cats have also gone days without food before.
Throughout all this my mom and I have been able to keep our chins up and finally things are starting to look better. My mother has taken on a second job which eventually will become her only job and will pay better, however this transition will take several months, during which we will continue to struggle, albiet slightly less. My mom intends to file bankruptcy to get rid of our debts and try to start a new life for us, though that will cost almost $2000 so it’s going to take us months to save up for it.
My mother has continued to be incredibly good to me through everything, and has tried to do everything she can to keep me happy. I really want to do something special for her for mother’s day, and it just so happens her birthday is the day before Mother’s Day.
So, tumblr, I’m asking for your help. I’m trying to raise enough money to get her a bed frame off Craiglist (currently her box spring and mattress are on the floor), paint her room (she hasn’t had a painted room since she was my age), and buy fabric to make her curtains for her room, something she’s wanted for a long time.
Now, I know alot of you aren’t in a position to give a stranger money, or aren’t old enough, but some of you I know can, and if you’re willing to help, it would mean so, so, so much to me. If you think you can spare a few dollars so I can make my mom’s life a little bit better in these dark times, please click here to donate to my paypal account. Literally anything would help, so please donate whatever you can, if you’re comfortable doing so. It would mean so much.
I hope you can understand how much this would mean to both myself and my amazing mom.
I can’t send much, but what I can I have. And signal boosting.
I work at Denny’s as a waitress. The restaurant was extra-ordinarily busy today.
Two families walk in (a total of 12) and need two high chairs. We can offer them two side by side tables and they seem happy with this. Family A and family B. Family A has a young woman, niece or daughter, join them…
I feel like this is a disease at Denny’s everywhere at this point. I also work at a Denny’s and I’ve not even been working there six months and could have been fired THREE times because of bullsh like this. People don’t realize this, but serving people is a terrible job. People treat you like crap because of their own personal problems, or because they feel like they can, and it can get you fired. In an instant.
My boyfriend hit me. I’m scared, crying, shaking, and confused. I don’t know what to do. I love him, so much, but he hit me. This is the second time. I deserve it, he deserves better, right?
What you need to do is leave him. You deserve better. You deserve someone who loves you. When you love someone you don’t hit them, you don’t abuse them. He doesn’t love you and you should never stay with someone who abuses you <3
A lot of people may not know this, but, Barack Obama was raised in Indonesia. Do you know what Indonesia is? It’s this country that’s made up of clusters of little islands off the coast of Asia. Now, because Indonesia is a foreign country, it is very…
WHAT THE HELL AMERICA!!! My knowledge of American politics is not particularly good, but as far as I knew Bush used to get drunk and high as a teenager! How is that better then this?!
I don’t know if rape jokes encourage rape culture. I don’t care. You still shouldn’t tell them.
Statistically, if you have told a rape joke to a group of more than five people, one of the people you told it to was a rape survivor, possibly of multiple rapes. They will not necessarily disclose this to you; rape apologism is endemic in society and most rape survivors are cautious about whom they tell. Some may even be too ashamed of their rape to admit it to anyone, or because of rape-minimizing narratives like “men can’t be raped” and “I consented to oral, so I couldn’t have been raped” may not admit it even to themselves. The fact remains: if you’ve told dozens of rape jokes in your life, then you have almost certainly told a joke that minimizes or trivializes rape in front of a survivor.
And if you put as your Facebook status “I totally raped at Halo today” for your two hundred Facebook friends to see, statistically, you have just reminded thirty-three people of one of the worst experiences of their entire lives.
Would also like to add that, in that Halo scenario, there are statistically 33 survivors who now have discovered that you are probably not the kind of friend they could ever feel safe enough to talk to about anything meaningful to them.
Alright this post is very important and imma tell you why…There are very few things whose naiveté I’ll purposely ignore…this is one of them. I highly fucking doubt getting kicked from the inside is any kind of fun. It might be poignant. But probably not fun, as all of your vital organs are in there. However, I really like parenthood and pregnancy and babies and stuff so I reblog all of these flowery, mothery, parenty, perfect baby milk and honey bullshit because I love it and couldn’t give two shits about how unrealistic it is. Just read some of my poems, as you can see I’ve never been pregnant so I have a really idealized vision of the whole situation. Eh, what are you gonna do.
Most of the time feeling my little one kick was very reassuring for me. I loved it. I know there are plenty of women who found it frustrating and painful, but it wasn’t for everyone :)
We don’t know much about how Silent was made, but we do know that she is one of the Insiders that has been around the longest, that she was most likely two Insiders - one human and one wolf - that integrated at some point, and she has taken more of the sexual abuse then any single other Insider in the whole system.
Silent is able to communicate in some way with Emersun, our physical protector. She and my husband have created some sign language together. My husband is the only person that she trusts.
Silent is able to hold a pen (rather awkwardly) and make pictures (also rather awkwardly), but prefers to use the sign language to communicate with my husband.
“It is very tempting to take the side of the perpetrator. All the perpetrator asks is that the bystander do nothing. He appeals to the universal desire to see, hear, and speak no evil. The victim ask the bystander to share the burden of the pain. The victim demands action, engagement, and remembering. (A tendency to render the victim invisible; to look the other way.)”—http://www.uic.edu/classes/psych/psych270/PTSD.htm
Christine lives in the Castle sub-system, but rarely talks to anyone other then the littles. We’re not completely sure of the time she was made, but we know it was before we were 8 years old.
She is the story teller of our system. To help the abused littles get the chance to relax and leave reality for a little while, she has made up stories for them. Mary-Anne Jane Taylor was one of the characters she created, and the only one of Christine’s characters that an Insider was based on.
Christine is incredibly shy, creative and someone who seems to live in a magical world, barely connected to the real world, or even to the Inside world.
it is pretty much just objectively terrible to make fun of serious trigger warnings or to trigger someone on purpose, but i can get the logic behind why people do it. if you’ve never been triggered or you’ve never heard the word before, it might sound ridiculous! i know that when i first got to tumblr, the concept was entirely new to me, and hearing the word “trigger” said so much without really knowing what it meant just seemed stupid. but you are allowed to learn and change for the better! lots of people use slurs and then after learning how they affect people and the serious impact they can have, they decide to cut them out of their vocabulary. tagging for triggers and slurs and such doesn’t make you a brave, melodramatic sj warrior with your hair blowing back in the wind of cruel edgy bloggers. you don’t have to experience trauma yourself to understand why people need tags. for some people, this website is the only space they can rely on to feel safe from -phobias and -isms and violence and gore. even if you still can’t quite grasp that, it takes like two seconds to tag things. literally two seconds. just do it.
the logic i cannot understand at all is the logic behind people who think it is hilarious to leave flashy gifs untagged. you might see psychological triggers as something intangible, with the reaction being more emotional than physical, and that can make it harder to understand. gifs don’t seem like a big deal to someone who has never been affected by them, but it is pretty easy to get a hang of the idea! a real physical image, right there on your screen that you can see with your own eyes, is prompting a real physical reaction in someone, whether it’s headaches or nausea or seizures. cause leads directly to effect, a leads directly to b. it is simple to understand, and again, it takes all of two seconds to tag! even if at first you keep forgetting, it’s better to edit a post you just reblogged and add “#epilepsy warning” or “#gif set” or something similar than leaving it totally untagged.
so, hey! if you are a cool edgy blogger and laugh in the face of those stupid tumblr users who surely think they are cutting-edge social justice activists because they add a few words to the bottom of their pretty flashy pictures, you can just unfollow me now. if you laugh at the idea of someone having a seizure, unfollow me ten minutes ago! click the little unfollow button and chortle at how much of a loser i am. it’s ok. shhh.
Amanda is 14, and is one of our protectors. She lives in the Castle sub-system.
When the body was ~5-6 years old, two protectors were created to care for the group of littles we had by that stage. Amanda was one of them. She took on caring predominantly for their emotional needs.
Two years ago, she integrated with the Midlands sub-system protector, Felicity. That integration gave Amanda more kindness and ferocity. Amanda has had depression and borderline personality disorder for a long time.
Amanda is very vocal in her anger. When someone slights anyone she cares about, she says so and she does it in a big way. She also doesn’t care about who is right and wrong - she cares more about protecting her friends and family.
i’m not otherkin. not even slightly. i have a few otherkin Insiders sharing this head with me, but i’m not one of them.
anyway. i’m seeing a lot about a ‘kin space. and i don’t get why people are bagging the idea at all. at my local community centre, there are meetups for a whole bunch of…
Well, thing is, they *don’t* want to arrange meetups at an existing community center that they would share with other groups, like the examples you have listed have done. Nor do they want to set up meetups at restaurants or parks as is commonly done, and as I have suggested they try if they really need to connect with others like themselves. They want to create an entire community center exclusively for otherkin. Their own private no-humans-allowed clubhouse.
And they want to do it with funds that nobody in the community actually has - at most, one person has stated they’re saving money up that is the difference between what they are paying for an apartment now and what they would pay for a nicer apartment. To rent or buy a building. Slight difference in scale, there. Let’s be really generous and say they’re saving $1000 a month for the otherkin community center. In comparison, renting a 1500 square foot office space in Waconia, MN (my mother lives there, and it’s one of the more rural places I can think of - its main street has four way stop signs) runs roughly $20,000 per year. So in just under two years, you might have enough saved up for a very small space, about the size of a one or two bedroom apartment, in a fairly unpopulated area. And would run out of funds after a year since it would take you another two years to save up a second year’s rent at that rate. And yet people are talking about helping to design “floors” of this community center, and wanting it to include wetlands. This isn’t remotely realistic.
The other option that’s been under discussion by several people is taking over parts of abandoned buildings and using them as otherkin spaces. This is dangerous: abandoned buildings are, by nature, insecure. If you broke in, others can too. They are also frequently structurally unsound. That’s often part of why they’re abandoned. They may already be used by squatters, or by criminal elements, either of which can pose a threat. And there’s also the fact that you’d be trespassing and possibly also breaking and entering: crimes. If all that’s not enough to show why this is a bad idea, think about this: what would the public reaction to the community be if someone got hurt and/or arrested and it got out in the press that it was because otherkin were setting up shop in abandoned buildings? People think they need shelters now? This could make public opinion of otherkin far worse.
The final option that’s been under discussion is the creation of hidden upstairs areas in shops for otherkin. This has the obvious flaw that there aren’t very many otherkin who own shops, first of all, let alone have sufficiently successful businesses that they could afford to set aside so much space that would normally be used for displaying inventory to customers or storing stock and designate it an otherkin community center/shelter/whatever instead. In fact, I can’t actually think of any.
I’d like to see some realism here. Not just pipe dreams and dangerous/illegal plans that will actually harm individuals and the community.
So what? All dreams start with nothing. Not doing anything illegal is important and that’s one thing I definitely saw being discussed.
Anyway, my point was that there are other groups of people who are allowed to meet up together and no one bats an eyelid. Why should it be any different for ‘kin?
I am having Generic Problems with it because i have no idea how it works.
I want people to be able to pay me for buttons. —PM
There are several ways to use paypal.
Firstly, if you don’t already, you need a credit or debit card linked to your paypal, or a bank account. A bank account will take up to a week to set up.
Next, the easiest way is to ask the seller to send you an invoice in paypal. If you’re using something like eBay or Etsy, or any other website that has paypal as a payment option, it’ll automatically tell you how much to pay. If not, either get the seller to send you an invoice, or ask for the email address of their paypal account - that’s all you need to send someone money in paypal.
As most of my followers will know, I’m Christian and very much committed to it. I don’t care to constantly post about it (though, when I visit the Christian tag I often reblog a fair few things). I don’t stick to only Christian follows. And I really am not bothered by people complaining about specific people or situations where God or a Christian has angered, upset or hurt them.
However, I’m not going to continue following people who reblog or post stuff simply to call all Christian names or belittle all Christians because we believe in something. You don’t have to believe what I do, but you don’t have to reblog things that call me an idiot for it.